As i was working today, i remembered this conversation that i had with Jfk's cousin, whose name is incidentally also Grace, and Marvin about stay home mums. Marvin was sharing with us about how his friend might have to give up buying his dream car because his new wife wanted to quit her job, stay at home and be a tai tai. Marvin's take is that a tai tai is different from a housewife. If one is a housewife, one stays home to take care of the family aka kids and hubby. If one is a tai tai, one leads a life equivalent to that of a socialite living the high life. Unless of cos', can also be HDB tai tai la. Oh, Marvin's friend's new wife is only in her mid twenties. Seriously speaking, i think she just need a break from work at IBM..not quit from the workforce.
Grace reckons that if she is a housewife, she is going to be bored....so will i. In the end, the conclusion was... ->we are both selfish hahaha we both did not want kids in our lives because then our lives will revolve around them. And we want so much of "me" time. She said she couldn't understand why don't her girlfriends ever want to come out as often (just dump the kid to mother lo) as before and dinner will never be eaten in peace as long as baby is around...since you have to feed the baby and make sure he/she is comfortably sleeping in the stroller. Well, it's maternal instincts that mothers do not dump kids/babies to their own mothers in order to go out. Can't relate to that now...
Marvin felt that it's a character issue. If you are a homely type of gal, you will have no problem staying at home looking after kids. If you are outgoing and easily bored, you gotta go out to the marketplace and work. Agreed. I cannot imagine staying at home indefinitely...love people too much to be confined to four walls, seventeen storeys up in the sky muahahaha
Jfk's mum told me once that she felt a woman who loves her family and children will stay home to care for the whole family. *pengz (means i dun love family enuff? since this has never cross my mind :p )
Hey but if you are a socialite, it's a whole different ball game. Imagine being Mrs Donald Trump, Mrs Rockefella etc. With that kind of moolah, you can do charity work, travel whole year round...or do whatever the heart wishes to do. It's probably never going to be boring heehee
Anyway, it means Grace and me are still having fun with "me" time and happy being "selfish" hahaha
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